Overheard this morning in the Tobak household:

“Will you be disappointed if I fail this sommelier exam?”

“Don’t be silly. You know I’m proud of you no matter what.”

“Thanks. Why weren’t you this supportive when we were younger?”

“Because I was too busy building my own career so we could have a good life.”

“You know that’s just an excuse. You could have done both.”

“Yeah, but I didn’t.”

“Why is that?”

“I don’t know. It’s a mystery.”

“Seriously.”

“Don’t ask ‘why;’ it’s an overrated question. It just happened.”

“Guess I can just divorce you and take half of your ‘good life’ instead.”

“‘Why’ is good.”

“So, why?”

“Because I was a selfish dickhead back then. You changed me.”

“Why did it have to take so damn long?”

“’Why’ again?”

“Would you rather I just …”

“OK, OK. Please stop saying that. I was a jerk, alright? Still am. It’s a work in progress. Maybe I’ll be a good person by the time I’m dead. The good news is, you probably don’t have long to wait.”

“I should be so lucky.”

“That’s my girl.”

“Don’t patronize me.”

“Sorry. I can make dinner tonight if you have to study.”

“That would be great; thanks.”

“Love you baby.”

“Love you too.”

Sometimes, “why” is a loaded question. I’d say “don’t take the bait,” but you see how well that works. Whatever happens, just apologize, volunteer to do some chores and let it go. That should do it. If not, you’re on your own. Good luck with that.

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2 Comments » for Why ‘Why?’ Is a Loaded Question
  1. Barry Duck says:

    I love this post, back in the 90’s when I was working hard and playing hard( I was helping teach a SCUBA class) I would keep my gear in my truck, and when I got off work one Friday I left work and headed to Panama City Beach for the dives. Later that night I called my wife and asked if I told her that I would be in Florida that weekend and of course I forgot to tell her, and she was not to happy. She was managing a store back then so she didn’t have time to be to mad, thankfully.
    The last company i worked for the president would come to me to find out about problems in the plant when it was running bad, and he would ask WHY after I explained something to him and keep on saying why,why,why until I would just say that’s the way it is. I was never sure if he was just messing with me or really trying to find out something.But he was a good president at least while I was there.

  2. Anurodh Sharma says:

    Absolutely Steve ! ” Whatever happens, just apologise, volunteer to do some chores and let it go. That should do it.”

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